Dear Internet Bullies,
I’m SO OVER you hiding behind your computer screens and hating on women’s bodies. We both know you don’t mean it nor would you ever have the balls to say it to someone’s face. Are you perfect? That was a rhetorical question because the answer is a hard HELL NO.
I purposefully snap chatted a photo not long ago while filming the main titles (intro) for Vanderpump Rules. I was wearing a tight dress and no Spanx. I hate Spanx for ONE reason: They make me insecure. If they don’t fit the way the Spanx designer intended them to, I’ll look “FAT” in your mind. I had nothing but a thong on underneath – a “seamless” one at that – and trust, my muffin top was peeking out. My friends don’t judge me, my boyfriend thinks I’m beautiful no matter what yet the entire time I was in that outfit I was stressing out that an imperfect photo would end up on social media and be my own personal hell for the next week (at least). So, instead of freaking out about my wardrobe I ate an extremely tasty enchilada and had one of my producers take a snap of my “food baby”. Hey, I need to be entertained too. I seriously imagined a plethora of VPR Season 5 speculations via trashy tabloids. As expected, the pregnancy rumors circulated almost immediately but what I didn’t expect was all of the fat shaming. If I wasn’t pregnant, that clearly just meant I had gained a substantial amount of weight and had been hiding it? The comments on my social media were repulsive. Thank GOD I didn’t post a regular, unfiltered pic of me hanging with my girls. Did you assholes know that my thighs were touching, too? I hoped the dress was long enough that you couldn’t notice my cellulite. I’m NOT PERFECT and neither are you so CUT THE SHIT.
To the women haters: You have flaws, we all do. What gives you the right to pick on anyone? Have you ever put yourself in someone else’s shoes (or bikini)?
To the men haters: Do you have any idea what it’s like to be a woman? How would you feel if your daughter/sister/girlfriend/wife was the victim of online fat shaming? Imagine the most beautiful girl in your life constantly crying inside because of a stranger’s comment.
What an aesthetically boring world we would live in if we were all a cookie cutter version of one another! All of you rude people with your worthless opinions should take a hard look in the mirror and a bite of humble pie. When you cyper-bully someone, please know we’re not the ones you’re “grossed out” by. It’s you.
In imperfection, lies beauty. We are all unique. Give someone a smile and a compliment today. Be gracious and kind. It feels a lot better.
P.S. This is called a rant for a reason: This is my space to blow off steam with passionate word vomit. Positive comments (especially to empower women!) are encouraged.